‘Is My Colombian Webcam Girl a Prostitute?’

A reader by the name of “Lowrider” left a comment about his Colombian internet girlfriend after reading the obnoxiously popular article, All Colombian Women Cheat. In a nutshell, he wants to know if his webcammer is simply doing whatever she can to overcome her circumstances, or if she is just using him.

Lowrider’s lightly edited comment:

I wish found this website two months ago, before going through all the emotional stress and feeling humiliated. I come from a country where honesty is very important, where words are kept and people normally tell the truth, sometimes bluntly. My country is one of the least corrupt in the world, and hearing about a culture where lying is a national sport scares the heck out of me.

I am dating a Colombiana via email. I met her on a webcam site, and we came to chat there for two hours. She didn’t want to go on, she felt dirty, used, a piece of flesh, and her mother threatened to throw her out of the house. She didn’t ask for my email address, but I gave it to her because I wanted to hear more about her story. Never thought she would write, but she did.

We have exchanged 25 emails by now, almost every night. She writes long mails, three or four pages, using a Spanish-English translator. She is interested about my country and has read a lot about it. That impressed me.

As she doesn’t know English I offered her to pay for English classes, which is about $100  per month. She didn’t ask for the money. I said I could pay.

She works as a dental assistant in Pereira, and she goes to college to study psychology. She needs her job to pay for school. It was not enough, so she started webcamming to get quick money. Many girls do that, she says, and it seems to be true according to the bios on the webcam site.

She asked me to send her a computer so that she doesn’t have to go to an internet cafe. It was way too much money. I haven’t sent one and will not.

When wiring her the support for the first month the Colombian bank required the recipient’s full name, address and birth dates. She was hesitant giving it to me as she said I could spread pictures from her webcam life, and if it went public she would get fired and never find another job. But she finally gave me the info and I sent the money. She said the bank were thieves and deducted fees, so she cancelled the account right after. She wants to use Western Union in the future.

Her father was diagnosed with cancer and then he got a heart attack. She showed selfies from the intensive care station with a male person in the bed behind, hooked up to all sorts of equipment. It could definitely be her father.

I fall in love easily, but it needs to be supported by honesty. This story feels too good to be true. We talked about her moving here after finishing her studies. She said she probably will not be able to due to language, cultural and climate barriers. To see each other outside Colombia is too expensive.

I cannot limit her life and prohibit her from seeing men in Colombia. But she says, Why does she need a Colombian man? She wants to get educated, get out of the misery, and live a normal life. Any man right now would just be a hindrance, get her pregnant and leave her.

Her parents are fighting, so she has decided to move away from home to a small room. The extra costs don’t allow her to go to English classes. And now she cannot pay her college bill this month. She says it’s the last time she will ask me for money, but she needs $180 or she will be kicked out of school. I got angry before because she talks about money. Am I just a bank to her?

The problem is that I am brought up to be honest, caring, helping and understanding. I feel perfectly alright helping a poor girl in a poor country to get out of her misery. I hate being used, though.

After reading these comments, I feel I am being used. She would have to be a very good faker though, I don’t know how she manages to get together a story supported by pictures which doesn’t fall apart. Did she use a friend’s account at the bank? And did she sneak into a hospital and take a picture of some other dude?

Just cut it off, you’ll say, but I cannot cut off anything until I find out it is a lie, and I haven’t.

What can I do?

My reply via email:

I read all the way through … fun read but I’m sorry man, you gotta face reality.

Your internet girlfriend is a prostitute. She doesn’t just finger herself online, she also has sex with paying clients at a brothel or three in her hometown. She may study at a university, maybe not. I doubt it. I bet she’s a full-time prostitute and webcammer.

She’s from Pereira, which is the setting of “Sin Tetas No Hay Paraiso.” Have you seen it?

Lowrider’s response:

Thanks, but I must honestly say that I cannot tell from what she wrote me so far that she is a prostitute. I read everything she wrote me so far, all 25-28 mails, and her story has no weak points, no obvious ones. What she told me in the beginning she has kept telling me all the way, the dates are correct (some deadlines for paying the college for instance).

If you are right, and you probably are, I cannot believe how someone can be so low. I questioned her several times with my uncertainties. She says many Colombian men want to go out with her and just have sex, and she wants to work herself out of her current miserable situation by getting a good education. She doesn’t want a boyfriend, she says that many Colombian girls are working as prostitutes, but she hates the reputation her country has gotten because of it. And if you are right, she is such a person herself? I would not ever be able to lie like that, I would not be capable.

So you mean she is just squeezing money out of me? That’s her only goal? You mean she tries it as long as possible, and then she will not write to me anymore? I have no idea how much a prostitute gets, but she has not received much from me so far, why is it worth all the long mails every night for two months? I would find it to be a lot of effort for very little.

I do not really have a problem closing down the connection as such, I just need to get angry enough, but in order to get angry enough I need proof of a lie first. I was brought up to be honest and believe people are telling the truth until the opposite is proven. I would not have suspected dishonest about her story, her family and her plans.

There’s just one thing that could confirm your suspicion: she was quite advanced on that webcam site. She was not a shy little girl “just fingering herself,” she did much more advanced things. And I wonder, why would you feel comfortable doing it, and how did you learn all of it during just a couple of months on a webcam site?

In two weeks I am going on vacation. I don’t want this story to be hanging over me.

My reply

In 2011 working girls in Bogota charged from $25 to $100 depending on the neighborhood of the establishment. That was before the collapse of the peso and the influx of Venezuelans, so current prices are certainly lower now, and even lower still for a shithole like Pereira.

Your girl was a good webcammer because she is a prostitute. There may be a webcammer or two who is not a prostitute, but I think they’re one in the same.

Why go through all the work? Because her ultimate dream is for you to marry her and bring her to your country, or to bring your money to her country where you will promptly be supporting her family and picking up the tab for big lunches and dinners with extended family.

I’ll tell you what I’ll do … I’ll turn your story into a blog post and we’ll see what the readers say. Many many many gringos in Colombia — maybe even one in Pereira but I don’t know — will know what to tell you better than I do.

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  1. For me the fact she asked for a computer is the give away, That smacks of ‘she is scamming’ you. If she is studying psychology for real she has all the tools she needs to manipulate you. Your offering to pay for various things will have convinced her you have money and the computer question was a test to see how far she can push you. Walk away, it’s not worth the trouble… at best a broken heart… at worst a broken body thanks to her drug cartel masters…


    1. Dude, trust me she scammed you. They don’t ask for money at first. They hook you on the sob and guilt story. Run like he’ll. Delete everything you can with this girl. You will find that situation with 99% percent of all south american cam girls. The work all angles, cams, streetwalker, bars, the mall. Anywhere they can turn a peso.


    2. 95 % of gringos can not get a regular girl in Colombia.. they get scammed and fall for a pre pago or cam girl. And get taken to the bank.. I don’t blame these woman. They have to survive… so they should get every penny they can out if these idiots lol I love Colombia. 😻


  2. Quite simply a scam. Sorry it is. I was in the same position with a Romanian Cam lady. We got talking like the OP and eventually we started chatting off site. I saw her most nights online. I gave her my number and we WhatsApp’d via message and call most days. She said she was poor going through college at law school. Then came the requests for money first small ohh I can’t pay the water bill this month can you lend me $300 dollars. Me being nice and nieve lent it to her. To me it wasn’t a big amount and thought I was helping. Then it became ohh I am short this month etc… In total over 18 months then I probably spent close to $10000. We even met twice I think they call this the convincer to the scam. Nothing happened as I am actually a gentleman. So one day I got a message saying that her Grandmother in the country was sick and she wouldn’t have any coverage or didn’t know when she would be back. After speaking to some good friends female and male explaining some of this the penny finally dropped. Yes a little slow but finally. Eventually found 12 months later that I had financed her and her boyfriend moving to Norway. And found out she was earning at least $5000 a month. My advice don’t look for a girlfriend on cam sites don’t give personal information. The girls are only there for one reason and one alone. To earn money and they will do that anyway they can. I wouldn’t call them
    Thieves or liars as per say it’s just how they get food on the table or escape the shit lives of Columbia or Romania for the US or Western Europe.


  3. I got caught up with a beautiful Colombian Mistress. She and Her studio were able to work me into paying $5,000 for her school. I got so addicted to this Woman that i would beg to pay maximum rate per minute plus beg Her to pick a gift every few minutes. I craved pleasing Her. I sent the $5,000 willingly via Western U. She posed for a picture with the correspondence and another giving it to a studio boss. I felt used. i was so desperate to please Her. it cost me a marriage. I still hear from Her every once in a while. I seek Her out once or twice a month because She was so beautiful, i could not let go…Prettyjacke She is a Goddess to me. Is it wrong to have half a regret?


    1. Hi everybody, I fell in Love with a camgirl too. I Met her after Bering scammed by another clolumbian women. How stupid can one ne. Ehe seemed to be so different. She listened to me Made me feel so Special. She Manager to Bring me away from CB and we talked all the time on WhatsApp. She told me, that the father of her son died a few years ago. She did not ask for money. But I sent her a few hundred EUR every month and tipped a lot on CB as well. We hat online dates every. After a few month we decided to meet in a Hotel in Medellin, were she lives. I took the risk of getting Covid in the flight. We had a really nice week. I did send her money before i started the trip. I finished it now after 9 month and 10000 EUR. She told me more and more stories. I did not believe them anymore. The last one was interesting: All of a sudden she went to get a tattoo. She wanted to have my name in a heart on her back. She wanted to proof my love and forced me to agree… At the end i realized she had a heart , but not my name in it. They wrote my name in it with a black pen..
      I believe now she would do anything for Money. Thank you for opening my eyes..


  4. sounds like you are telling my story as to what i just had happen, just had my heart ripped out when i found out she lied to me
    cam girl i would have married her and made her life great, now feel like going to show her what she missed by scaming me
    think we all should get together and post names and website of known scammers


    1. Same with me brother i’m in make a website and let’s name these scammers. It would sound lame but deep inside i’m still connected to her …


  5. I hope this fool didn’t get fleeced too badly. This girl doesn’t, or didn’t, care about you. At all. It’s a job. They make money from regulars, and they want to keep you coming back.


  6. I don’t know if anyone is still contributing to this debate but I will add my two cents worth anyway. I too like many men visited a webcam site and fell in love with the young Colombian model that smiled sweetly and opened parts of her body to my ever widening gaze. Later after weeks of exchanged messages a small part of her heart also opened and I got to know something about her life and she mine. I’m 71 and she’s 25 and there are a number of labels you could attach to this relationship. And I’m not that besotted to realise that none of them would include the possibility of the kind of union that forsakes all others and leads to loves ultimate alter.
    But whose to judge?
    I was happy enough to float in the gap between reality and fantasy and chat as well as contribute to her welfare via the website. I am also writing a series of short stories for a book that explores the relationship between older men and much younger girls, and talking to her helped me understand her background and feelings.
    I’ve stopped now as I would have to write a best selling book to cover the increasing cost of the on-line communication. I also have two daughters the same age and don’t know if they would totally believe me if I told them my interest was ‘just research.’
    It’s just an opinion but I would suggest worrying over whose scamming who is less appealing than recognising the flicker in love’s heart that reminds us all why we are alive.


  7. I am glad I read this story and all the comments thank you my brothers. My story is the same, but I sent the computer ROTFL. Oh well something to laugh about on my death bed. I could view this as getting scammed, played, used, worked or i was just a job. But it’s not her fault they do what they need to do for survival. It’s my fault for seeking it. My fault believing that won’t be me. I could see the trap and wow her with my street smarts.
    But foolish me no matter what I tell myself i was starving for Human connection we all desire it. I’m married I shouldn’t need it another opening in my armor I didn’t omit. 9 months I have been talking to this Columbia camgirl, sending weekly money and gifts while we talked and went deeper into the connection. Lately I have been breaking off my connection not feeling comfortable anymore. The hardest was turning off the whatsapp chat and ignoring the responses, I would like to say I ignored the calls but there wasn’t any, that should be proof enough. It was easy for her to ask why, claim the end of the world,, then to accept it as if it was my loss. I liked her it felt real and deep. But I knew what it was at the end. Is it normal to feel like a fool, to wish for the fantasy, to hope for a deeper connection, to feel alive? To anyone else who reads this no matter how old you are, keep your money spend it on yourself you deserve it more. A poor man has a better chance to find love, Fantasies belong books and their world is not your world.


  8. The reality TV franchise ’90 Day Fiance’ has a new loser named Mike Berk who met a web cam girl in Colombia. They joined the cast of the show as he tried to bring her to the USA on a fiance visa. This loser was paying for her apartment and sending her more money until she could come to the USA and she wouldn’t even profess her love to him. She finally broke off the relationship or he would probably still be sending her money. Now he is probably looking for a new web cam girl to give his money to. Here is one of many web pages dedicated to the story of this loser. https://www.cheatsheet.com/entertainment/90-day-fiance-mikes-attempts-humiliate-manipulate-ximena-backfires.html/


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